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Each self-inflicted death in which the deceased had endured abuse at home must be treated as a potential murder case, as per calls from advocates who seek to hold abusers responsible for the devastating impact of their behavior.

This step is necessary because law enforcement are failing to bring perpetrators to justice in cases of suicide after family violence.

“In case after case, there is widespread breakdown, particularly within the legal system, to examine these deaths with the gravity they deserve,” remarked a leader of a advocacy organization during a significant meeting in Westminster recently.

The assembly, organized by a organization leading a “Self-Inflicted Death is Murder” initiative to advocate for change in the legal framework, brought together relatives who had lost loved ones to self-inflicted death following domestic abuse.

Personal Stories of Tragedy

One mother lost her daughter Chloe Holland in spring 2023. Prior to her passing, Chloe had informed her ex-boyfriend to authorities, providing a two-hour video interview as evidence about his conduct.

Following her passing, the perpetrator was found guilty of manipulative and domineering conduct and imprisoned for 41 months. He was later jailed for an additional term after a second woman stepped up to disclose that she had been in a violent and abusive relationship with him.

After Chloe’s death, the mother decided to campaign for a legal change to hold offenders to justice; however she then realized that regulations were existing, they just were rarely applied to secure prosecutions.

“I concluded it wasn’t a new law I required as existing laws were already there, and after finding out how much my daughter had been let down previous to her death by the authorities and many other agencies, they had to fulfill their duties, and things required reform,” she explained.

“More than four dozen relatives have contacted me and just a handful of us have had a conviction,” she added. “I was astonished to see such a large number who have been fighting the police and prosecution service for years and getting no justice for their child or sibling and didn’t have a voice in case it impacted inquiries that were not progressing.”

Further Heartbreaking Account

One mother’s daughter Hannah died in May 2017, in what she described as “the ultimate abusive action” in a prolonged pattern of mistreatment.

“Hannah was vibrant, she was loving,” she said. “She was full of promise, and she was an exceptional, really loving mum to her kids, and she died by suicide after 24 months in a partnership where she was systematically destroyed by her partner,” she explained.

“She endured physical assaults, she was psychologically tortured, she was controlled and broken down gradually until she was unable to envision a way forward. The individual who did this to her went unpunished, because we call it suicide, we conclude the case and we proceed.

“Yet I was unable to continue,” she said, “and I haven’t been able to move on. Honestly, she did not merely take her own life. She was killed. She was killed slowly and intentionally over a two year period, and when I approached the authorities, when I begged them to investigate what he had inflicted upon her, I was informed that there was no action that they were able to take.

“No inquiry was conducted into her death. The domestic homicide review, which I had to struggle to obtain, took five years and changed nothing. A lengthy coroner’s hearing found self-inflicted death, notwithstanding huge evidence over a extremely distressing four day period of domestic abuse and failings by multiple services.”

The parent informed the gathering that for eight years she has “been fighting a establishment that ignores what is right in front of it”.

She said the self-inflicted death is murder movement was critical “because when an individual dies by suicide after they’ve endured domestic abuse, we have to examine it for what it truly represents, which is homicide.

“We need to apply the laws we currently have effectively and it is not occurring at the moment, and we need to hold abusers accountable for pushing their targets to suicide.

“We have the laws. We require determination, we need police to investigate properly. We need the Crown Prosecution Service to take legal action. We need the judiciary to recognize that verbal abuse and manipulation can cause death just as much as hands and weapons.”

Political Response

At a second meeting in the House of Commons, led by a Labour MP, and attended by the safeguarding minister, the grieving families again shared their experiences.

A junior minister told the meeting: “These deaths are often written off as if they were their own choice, they opted for this, when, in truth, these were the result of in fact, another person’s abuse, and these are not isolated stories.”

“The legal system is flawed, we are aware,” she stated. “Particularly around murder or manslaughter, it is fragmented. It’s not written in statute anyway, it has been developed with traditional legal customs for centuries, and it is outdated, quite frankly, it’s the world we currently live in.

“I will not claim that it’s going to be simple to fix. It is extremely complicated and challenging, particularly when you consider the issue of murder, but we recognize that it needs to be looked at.”

Legal Authority Comment

A spokesperson for the prosecution service commented: “Family violence is a heinous crime and our prosecutors are actively advised to evaluate murder and manslaughter charges in suicide cases where there is a known context of domestic abuse or other manipulative conduct.

“We have in the past prosecuted a several individuals for causing the death of a partner they mistreated, encompassing in proceedings which are ongoing.

“We are collaborating with law enforcement and other parties to guarantee these types of crimes are clearly recognized – so that we can bring perpetrators to justice for the complete scope of their wrongdoings.”